HOW TO OVERCOME JEALOUSY IN A RELATIONSHIP

Jealousy is a human emotion that we all instinctively experience at some point in our lives. Jealousy can refer to a strong desire for or envy of someone else’s success, stature, or possessions.

Taken in a social context, it can refer to a perceived threat to a valued relationship or to its quality. Jealousy may cause someone to be doubtful of his or her partner and feel threatened by his or her interaction with certain people. It involves a fear of losing the other person.

There are different kinds of jealousy and educating yourself on them may help you and your partner develop a stronger relationship.

Healthy Jealousy
Jealousy doesn’t necessarily indicate negative connotations in all cases. After all, it is quite natural for men and women to be protective and possessive of the one that they love. In a relationship, when feelings of jealousy are mild and occasional, it reminds the couple not to take each other for granted. It can encourage couples to appreciate one another and make an effort to ensure the other person feels valued.

Having reservations about your significant other going to a strip club, the sight of him or her drooling over an attractive person of the opposite sex, or witnessing him or her flirting with someone else are innocent examples of how jealousy can be a perfectly normal reaction.

Destructive Jealousy

Sometimes, jealous feelings can balloon out of proportion. It is a completely different story when jealousy becomes frequent, intense, and irrational. Once you reach this stage, you obsessively begin to question your lover’s loyalty to you and it sends you into a blind rage. You may even try to restrict your partner’s interactions with other people and constantly monitor where he or she goes and what he or she does.

If you can’t control your jealousy, it is bound to be detrimental to your relationship. It eats away at the most important thing holding it together – trust. It can leave your loved one constantly feeling like they are walking on eggshells.

If you find yourself drifting into the realm of harmful and unhealthy jealousy, there are things you can do to prevent it from ruining your current and future relationships.

Identify the Root of the Problem

What is causing this unfounded jealousy? You may behave this way because you have been cheated on in the past. This may cause you to be more possessive and controlling in a new relationship for fear of repetition, even if he or she has never given you a reason to be doubtful.

If this is the case, it is important to deal with these feelings and insecurities before you enter a new relationship. Harboring unresolved feelings from past relationships is a sure sign that you aren’t ready for a new one.

Give yourself a Reality Check

Focus on what is really happening, not what you perceive to be happening. How realistic is the threat? What evidence do you have that your relationship is in danger? Distinguish fact from fiction.

If you have no solid grounds for feeling jealous, your false accusations will cause a lot of unnecessary strain on the relationship. Don’t let your imagination draw a negative picture of your partner.

Positive Self-Talk

Sometimes, you need to give yourself a pep talk. When you start feeling those twinges of jealousy, remind yourself that your partner loves you and is committed to you. Realize that he or she is with you for a reason. These self-affirmations can help you boost your confidence.

Seek Reassurance

If you can’t talk yourself out of a jealous funk, perhaps communicating your feelings will help resolve your insecurities. One of the best ways to beat jealousy is to ask your partner for reassurance. Make sure you don’t take an accusatory, nagging, or bullying tone with him or her. Instead, share your feelings of doubt and ask them to help you overcome them.

By communicating your feelings, you can work out solutions together.

Get an Objective Opinion

Ask a close friend to take note of your behaviour around your boyfriend or girlfriend. Sometimes, you aren’t fully aware of your actions, especially when emotions like jealousy cloud your judgment. By getting a neutral party’s perspective, it can help you fully understand the extent of your actions.

A good friend will let you know if your behaviour is out of control and destructive.

Set Boundaries from the Start

Try establishing some general guidelines at the beginning of the relationship. Let your partner know what is and isn’t acceptable for you. Be careful not to use this piece of advice as a means to control your boyfriend or girlfriend, just let him or her know what makes you tick.

For example, how far is too far when it comes to flirting? Telling your partner what makes you uncomfortable can also help you trust him or her more since you are divulging sensitive feelings.

TRUE LOVE OR FAKE LOVE - HOW TO KNOW IF IT IS REAL

Finding out if what you have is true love can be tricky. Feelings must be analyzed before they can be identified for what they truly are. The best way to find out how you really feel about someone is to sit down and dissect the relationship.

Signs Of Not Real Love

Possible signs that it isn't true love is you...

* think of your partner as absolutely perfect
* are concerned with your needs first
* need to spend all your free time with your partner
* quickly became infatuated with your partner
* tend to be jealous easily
* can't come to a compromise after fighting

# Signs Of A True Love

Possible signs that what you have may be true love is you...

* accept your partner and their flaws
* are concerned with your partner's needs first
* are comfortable being apart from one another
* slowly fell for your partner
* trust your partner completely
* are able to resolve a fight and grow stronger through it

Is this love ? A close look

"How do you know if it is really love?" Well, as you can imagine, this also happens to be one of the most difficult questions to answer! Love is such a strange, wonderful thing that nobody really has codified what it is yet. And to further complicate matters, there are so many different kinds of love: the love you feel for a friend, a family member, a sport or even a pet. This is such a crazy emotion that there is absolutely no way that I can definitively answer how you know it is love… but I am going to give it a try!

Now, in order to find out if you love someone, the basic place to start would be to ask yourself, do you want to be with them? If the answer to that question is no, then it really can't be love. When you love someone, you want to be with them. Not just be with them, but share everything with them. You have a great day at work and want to rush home and tell them every wonderful thing that has happened. You feel excited at the prospect of just being in their company, just being close to them isn't enough, you want to be a part of them, a part of their life forever. You can't stand the thought of being away from them yet, when you are, you still feel that ever-present bond that ties you together wherever you go. You can almost feel what they are feeling. You feel like, with a little bit of effort, you can see what they are seeing and think what they are thinking. It is almost as if you both can occupy each other's bodies with complete trust and harmony. That to me is love.

Now, on the other side of the spectrum, there are a host of emotions that people confuse with love. One of the most common is lust. There is a difference between wanting to sleep with someone and wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone.

Being overly dependent on the other person is also not a part of love. Some people fall into the trap of thinking they love someone just because they are afraid to be alone. They have become dependent on the other person for so much that they don't know how to make it on their own, or they would much rather be with someone than no-one.

This leads to the old cliché, in order to love someone else, you must first learn to love yourself. Well, we've all heard that before, but what does it really mean? It means that you have to be confident in your own ability and your own judgement. You really have to like yourself and know what you have to offer another person. There is no way that you can love another person if you are so stuck in your own hang-ups that you bow down and propitiate to the other person. That is, you do anything they ask and agree with everything they say out of fear that they will love you less because you don't do those things.

Basically, the question of whether or not you are in love with someone is pretty cut and dry: you either are or you aren't… and deep down, you know the answer. You just have to trust yourself to recognize it.

Dear dating but lonely

Let's be honest, romance is a crucial element of a relationship. And if we are really, really honest so is communication. He is withholding both of these from you. You can't be expected to continue in a relationship that is only half there. Don't you feel like you deserve more? I know it may feel like it is easier to put up with the problems in a current relationship than to try and find someone else. If you look at your relationship closely, you'll probably see that the only thing he is offering you is friendship anyway. I imagine you long for those long nights of cuddling in front of a fire, passionate kisses or embraces. If he hasn't found a way to be intimate with you beyond the simple kiss and hand holding within 6 months, you can probably be assured this will not be the end of your problems in this arena. I guess what you really need to be asking yourself is if this is what your idea of a relationship should be? Are you willing to settle for a relationship devoid of romance?

Is he realy singel ?

Probably the biggest problem in internet dating is the volume of married people posing as singles. With the net being available at work, and everyone carrying cell phones, this farce can go on for months, if not years, without anyone finding out. Weekend visits coincide with "business trips." How can you be sure?

When you begin to be serious about an Internet relationship, you normally share basic details about each other - your home address, your family details, the work you do. Write the person love letters to their house. Look them up on switchboard.com and give them a call to say hello. Arrange to meet their family and friends. It would have to be an extremely elaborate hoax for even family and friends to accept you and hide the existence of another person in your partner´s life.

Is the best romantic gift stil a bunch of roses...?

Have you ever wished you could come up with a new gift idea to show your loved one how you feel?

Have you ever wondered about what the different colors of Roses actually mean? For instance, next time you choose a specific color of Rose, do so to convey a special meaning.

Look below and learn what the different Rose colors represent and next time you buy a Rose as a gift, deliver a loving message at the same time.

Colored Roses and What Each Color Means

* Red - Love, I Love You
* Pink - Perfect Happiness, Please Believe Me
* Peach - Modesty
* White - Innocence and Purity, I am Worthy of You, You're Heavenly
* Orange - Fascination
* Yellow - Texas Love, Joy and Friendship
* Single Full Bloomed Rose - I Love You, I Still Love You
* White and Red Mixed - Unity
* Rosebud - Beauty and Youth, A Heart of Innocent Love
* Rosebud (Red) - Pure and Lovely
* Rosebud (White) - Girlhood
* Bridal - Happy Love
* Christmas - Tranquilize My Anxiety
* Damask - Persian Ambassador of Love
* Dark Crimson - Mourning or Loss
* Hibiscus - Delicate Beauty
* Leaf - You May Hope
* Tea - I'll Remember Always
* Thornless - Love at First Sight
* Bouquet of Mature Blooms - Gratitude

Next time you buy your loved one a Rose as a gift, attach a handwritten card to convey the message to him/her that the color means. This is a great way to enhance your love life!

Here are some great examples for you to adapt for yourself:

* Tea Rose -- Last night was very special. I’ll Remember Always!
* Dark Crimson -- You mean so much to me. Can we try again just one more time?
* Rosebud (Red) -- You take my breath away! You look so lovely!
* Orange -- You fascinate me! Can we spend more time together?

Even smaller, simpler messages will enhance your love life and will thrill your partner!

“Here’s How To Meet And Date . The kind of woman you we always wanted''

I’ll show you the exact steps and specific directions to help you be more successful with women and dating—and you don't have to be rich or handsome to do it...

Dear Friend,


Recently I was out with some friends at a local club. I looked over and saw a very attractive woman. I decided that I'd like to meet her and get her number so I could get a date with her later.

I walked over and said a few words to her. Within about 3 minutes she was writing her name and phone number down for me. Keep in mind, this was at a popular club where she was being hit on all night. And I was the one who got her number.

Other guys buy drinks, dance, and try for hours— and usually wind up with nothing in these types of situations. But I was able to talk to her and get her number almost instantly.

The question is: What did I say to her? How did I do it?

If you would have asked me if this was even possible a few years ago, I would have said "No way." But now I do it ALL THE TIME.

It's not uncommon for me to go out for an afternoon or evening and come home with 3 or 4 phone numbers from attractive, interesting women.

And it doesn't matter where I am. I can go shopping at a mall, out to a nightclub, or even shopping at the super market, and still meet one woman after another. As a matter of fact, my techniques work EVEN BETTER in coffee shops and other 'normal' places.

I have to mention one more thing: I'm a regular guy. I'm 33 years old, I'm only 5'10" tall (short?), and I'm not athletic. I'm a mixture of nationalities, but most people think that I'm Middle Eastern when they first meet me—and I've never been the kind of guy that women approach or ask out.

So how did I go from not even being able to TALK to women to now being able to get phone numbers in 3 minutes and as many dates as I want?

How to tell if she's ready to be kissed

I used to have no idea if a woman was ready to be kissed.

I could be sitting there talking to her, thinking to myself “Wow, her lips really look nice...” but I didn't know what to do next. This would often leave me kissless, and many times kissless for good, as I didn't get another chance.

Here's what I do now:

If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to be kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.

If she smiles and likes this, I'll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she's ready to be kissed.

By using “The Kiss Test” I've been kind and complimentary, but by being very SUBTLE about it, I haven't given her anything she can object to. I now have a way of knowing if she's ready to be kissed that NEVER gets me rejected—and I know within 5 minutes what it used to take me hours or days to figure out..

write by jatin sharma